Our world can begin to feel quite small when we let our fears guide and dictate our daily choices. Perhaps you anticipate the worst of future events and then avoid certain places or people. When we are struggling with anxiety, we may not only avoid external situations, but we may also begin to avoid our inner world, our own thoughts and feelings. In order to reduce the urge to avoid or escape, we can begin by slowly getting to know these fears. A large piece of this work involves exploring client's fears and learning how to tolerate distress while living a life of meaning that is inline with your personal values.
Many of us were not taught the necessary skills involved in emotional management and thus are left to our own devices from a young age. In some cases, our emotional states may have been met with criticism or shame. A big piece of this work involves restructuring the relationship we have with ourselves and our own emotions, learning to tend to and to care for rather than deny or numb. When we have not yet learned these emotional management skills, we may likely feel out of control or numb. We may rely on food, alcohol, drugs, sex, work, the list could go on, in order to manage uncomfortable experiences. Emotional regulation involves learning to navigate our own experiences as autonomous and safely connected beings.
We all hold an innate capacity for personal growth and actualizing potential. Under the appropriate circumstances and relationships, we can more easily access our own inner resources. Perhaps you feel "stuck" in your personal development or maybe you are experiencing a creative block. A significant piece of this work involves exploring barriers to creativity and growth, whether these barriers are perceived or real. While taking intentionally calculated risks, we can learn to adjust our own limiting beliefs based on a more accurate picture of our potential. The aim of this work is to bring ourselves closer to our own authentic self and personal truth.
It is common for individuals struggling with depression to feel a sense of emptiness or numbness. Depression can present itself in different ways and can result from a range of experiences. Part of this work is learning to understand your depression. What are your early signs? When are you most vulnerable to experience depression? Tools are utilized to help clients recognize their own states and to help them gain their power and control back. This work also aims to explore the function and origin of depressive states. In addition, clients who struggle with depression can learn their "common" and repetitive thought patterns which led to depressive states.
When the impact of significant life transitions are overlooked, it is common to feel overwhelmed, anxious or out of control. Such transitions include anything from moving out, a new relationship, a new job, having a baby, or starting university/college. These changes do not have a uniform impact on each individual and it can be helpful to explore how we are processing and adapting to new chapters of our lives.